Benjamin
Benjamin C. Selby
Benjamin C. ‘Ben’ Selby of Plainwell, MI passed away Sunday, March 13, 2011 of injuries from a quad-runner accident.
Ben was born August 18, 1995 in Grand Rapids, the son of David and Annette (Macomber) Selby. He was a sophomore at Plainwell High School and was a member of the Fennville Rod and Gun Club. Ben was an avid fisherman and loved the outdoors and woodworking.
Surviving are his parents; a half-brother, David Selby, Jr; his grandparents, Quincy and Lavina Dunlap of Allegan and Everett and Clare Macomber of Gun Lake; aunts and uncles; Jeanette (Vic) Ferris, Todd (Shelly) Macomber, Karmen (Lee) Brown, Tad (Trisha) Macomber, Marilyn (Glen) Rice, Mick (Carol) Selby and Jim (Joy) Selby; many cousins.
Friends may meet with Ben’s family from 2 to 4 and 6 to 8 P.M. Wednesday at the
Winkel Funeral Home, Otsego,
where funeral services will be held at 1:00 P.M. Thursday. Burial will follow at Hillside Cemetery.
Condolences for the family may be left at
www.WinkelFuneralHome.com
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Mr. Ken Moore
March 14, 2011 at 12:53 pm
This is to the family of Ben Selby, a friend of my son, Andrew, and one of my recreational summer baseball kids. I send my condolences to the family, as well as a thanks for making my son, Andrew, a part of Ben’s life. Andrew enjoyed coming to the house to hang out with Ben, and I always enjoyed hearing when Ben called to ask if Andrew could come and visit. Ben was a good ball player, and always had a good spirit when he talked to me. Him and Andrew saw a few movies together at the M-89 theater, and Andrew always said he enjoyed himself. God Bless all of you, and again, I send condolences at the loss of Ben. He was a great kid.
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Sara Smith
March 14, 2011 at 1:04 pm
Ben & I had almost every class together every year since fourth grade. He always knew how to keep a smile on everyone’s face and knew how to bring everyone’s mood up in a jiff. He was an amazing friend to everyone. He will be missed by many. He will always be in my heart as the smiley and happy guy he was. I’m sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers.
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Kelly Laker
March 14, 2011 at 1:54 pm
May God give you comfort and strength to help you with your loss. Ben will be remembered and missed.
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Maurer Family
March 14, 2011 at 2:24 pm
Heartbroken to hear the sad news. Victoria has always been so fond of Ben, he will be missed. Praying that Jehovah gives you the comfort and strength you need. In our thoughts and prayers…..
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Phil, Katie and Ben Neslund
March 14, 2011 at 2:30 pm
You are in our prayers, Dave and Annette. We are so sorry to hear about Ben. Phil and I remembered, fondly, when your Ben used to call our Ben “Curly” and how he said it with that teeny tiny little voice of his. May God bless you now and forever.
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Uncle Tad & Aunt Thrisha
March 14, 2011 at 3:03 pm
We will look forward to seeing you again in Gods, new order. You will be missed. We will always miss teasing ya and messing around.
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Zeb and Shayla Brown
March 14, 2011 at 3:12 pm
Hay Benny we love you so much cant waight to see your smiling face in paridice with all the rest of your family that loves you your mom n dad will be taken cair of till we all see you again thats a promis love you lots shay n zeb
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Jeannette Ferris
March 14, 2011 at 3:13 pm
Vic and I are so sorry for your loss. The only thing I can think of is that everyday that passes is one day closer to seeing Ben again. You both are in our prayers.
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Uncle Tad N Trisha Macomber
March 14, 2011 at 3:19 pm
We will see ya in Gods new order. We sure will miss you. We will never forget your good nature, and how well you always took our teasing. Even when it was about your hair.
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Nicole Stopa (Macomber)
March 14, 2011 at 3:51 pm
Ben was my little cousin. It seems like just yesterday he was a little boy but how fast he grew up and truned into a young man. I did not get to spend much time with him but the time i did spend with him he was always so happy and always had a joke up his sleeve. He will be missed so so much by us all and by Jehovah God who will so soon wake him up to be with us again in paradise.
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Stuart & Teresa Sebright
March 14, 2011 at 4:01 pm
Our most sincere condolences on your loss. We heard about Ben last night from Lavina.
Ben was a good friend to our boys Kyle and Jacob. We would often see him when he was at his grandparents. Ben loved to fish with our boys in the pond or do anything outdoors. We liked that he encouraged our boys to do more outdoors and get away from their video games. He was always very upbeat and courtious.
We and our boys will miss him. May God give all of you strength and comfort during this time.
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Emily, Cheryl, and Sarah Soderquist
March 14, 2011 at 4:11 pm
Emily has known Ben since elementary and is holding onto the memories of the fun times in school. We are so sorry for the loss of your son, Ben. Thoughts and prayers for the sadness you and your family are going through. His absence will be felt by many more people than you can realize.
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Lindy Holmes
March 14, 2011 at 5:05 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. Ben was an amazing kid here on earth and will be an amazing angel in heaven. Of course this world will miss his beautiful smile but it is comforting to know we will see him again someday.
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Linda Brubaker
March 14, 2011 at 6:08 pm
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I never met Ben but hearing you talk about him he must have been a wonderful son and a GOD send to you both.Just know that he is being taken care of and Loved. If you ever need anything just get ahold of me.
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Crossoak Family Dentistry
March 14, 2011 at 6:31 pm
David and Annette,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. We all loved “little Ben” he was such a great young man. Always had a smile for everyone in our office.
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Tom, Candy, Alexis and Brianna Burress
March 14, 2011 at 6:33 pm
Dave and Annette, our heart felt condolences to both of you. Ben was such a joy to be around always full of energy and spunk. He will surely be missed. You two will be in our thoughts and prayers.
With Love Always.
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Samantha Brouwer
March 14, 2011 at 6:56 pm
I may have never met Ben but I was very sad when the teachers told me of his death. I went to school with him and it was a shame that I didn’t have a chance. May he rest in peace and may your broken hearts heal in the future.
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Rita Boylan
March 14, 2011 at 6:59 pm
I’m so so so very sorry to hear about Ben, when I found out my heart just dropped. He was such a great friend and I wish I could have spent more time with him in school. I will miss him so much. May God be with you in this time, we’ll all miss his loving kind smile.
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jamie selby dunklee
March 14, 2011 at 7:02 pm
i’m so very sorry for your loss, I did not know Ben very well but what i did know of him he was a good kid but know now that he’s up hunting and fishing with grandpa Mick and driving him and grandma around hope those angels stay off the side walk ben’s coming through, my thoughts and prayers are with you guys
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Sandy Demyanovich
March 14, 2011 at 7:08 pm
Thought of Ben a lot today as I worked at Starr, many good memories of our kids together there. I pray that you too, will remember all those good times you had with him and that they will help you overcome the sadness you are feeling now.
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Stephen Cramer
March 14, 2011 at 7:10 pm
As a substitute teacher I’ve known Ben since he was in 5th grade. Ben was always a good student for me. His smile was contagious, he laughed a lot, and he seemed to genuinely enjoy life. It’s tragic to see such a life lost so early. My family and I are praying for Ben, his family and friends, and the rest of the community. Our heartfelt condolences go out to all of you.
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Dalene Anson
March 14, 2011 at 7:49 pm
Hi Annette and Dave,
I was terribly saddened to hear about your loss. I will not be able to attend the visitation or funeral as my husband is undergoing treatment for cancer in Ann Arbor and we are gone during the week, but I wanted you to know how deeply sorry I am. I hope that God will grant you strength to endure this difficult time.
Dalene Anson
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allie meingasner
March 14, 2011 at 7:55 pm
honey sincere condolences for you and david we just have to know he is a better place.wish i could be there for you both.you know where i am if you need me.love you both.
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hunter currier
March 14, 2011 at 7:56 pm
i am so sorry to hear about your loss. i met ben in math class and he seemed like the niceest kid he will be missed by many. ben and his family are in my prayers.
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Cindy Yonkers, Fennville Rod & Gun Club
March 14, 2011 at 7:57 pm
All of us at the Club will miss Ben dearly and offer our condolences to the family. Not long ago he helped cook chicken with the crew and helped me get the Newsletters folded and ready for mailing.
He was a great kid – always with a smile on his face. He’s at peace..
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Bethany Peacock
March 14, 2011 at 7:57 pm
Personally, I did not know Ben. But, I did see him during lunch this past year on occasion. He always looked so happy, and it’s breath-taking that he is no longer physically with us. It makes me really think about taking things for granted. So, I thank Ben for teaching me this; even though I do regret his death. I am so sorry to Ben’s family and friends, but at least he lived the life he wanted.
“The good always die young.”
Keep that in mind.
You’ll be in my prayers.
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Tyler hatfield
March 14, 2011 at 8:02 pm
Ben will be missed from all of us at Plainwell high. i met him at breakfast last year and he became a friend. r.i.p bud. we all miss you
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Emily Goodrich
March 14, 2011 at 8:30 pm
Hi well i was really good friends with Ben same with my brother Brett Goodrcih we were both really sad that he had passed away. Ben he was in 2 of my classes with me 3rd tri and he was in 1 with my brother. i am a freshman.. he always played around in classes and during passing time and now i will be missing that i sat by him at lunch if we had the same lunch he was a great kid.. i am really sorry about your loss with Ben.. i will talk to my mom and my brother about us coming to the funeral services..
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Emily
March 14, 2011 at 9:00 pm
Ben’s family, I used to go to the high schoool and hug Ben all the time and when i saw this i couldn’t belive this. i will miss ben soooo much i love him as a brother and i will never forget him ever.
Sincerly Emily<3
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Sammie Harris
March 14, 2011 at 9:00 pm
I have had Ben in my school since Kindergarden and even though we didn’t have the same teachers we had recess together and all through middle school we had classes together and freshmen and sophmore year. He was a very nice person and he would make everyone smile if they were down.
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Bonnie McDonald
March 14, 2011 at 9:07 pm
Dear Annette and Dave so sorry to here about Ben. i know words wont make the hurt go away.Just know that your family and friends are here for you. i will pray for you to have the strength to go on.
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adam
March 14, 2011 at 9:24 pm
hey Ben, everyone at school will miss you
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sarah
March 14, 2011 at 9:49 pm
Dave and Annette, I am so very sorry for your loss. Ben was such a terrific kid. He was such a good friend to Storm. They definately had some good times together. Little Ben (as I always called him) and that sweet smile of his will be sadly missed. My prayers go out to you both and may God be with you during these difficult times. Love always Sarah and Storm
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Rachel Wilgenhof
March 14, 2011 at 10:07 pm
There is an event I’m trying to get started at my school this friday, In honor of Ben, we’re getting as many people as we can to wear camo. Ben was such a sweet kid. I’ve gone to school with him for 11 years now and my most recent memories with him were in my physics class. he constantly talked of his family and his aspirations and hunting and just about everything he cared about. He was passionate about the things he set his mind to and he was confident in the work he did, even in physics.. I’m gonna miss you bud.. rest in peace <3
link for the event on friday–
http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=209402155742488¬if_t=event_wall#!/event.php?eid=209402155742488
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Kati Riston
March 14, 2011 at 10:18 pm
Ben, you were an amazing kid. We never were really close friends but everyday when i walked by you in the halls you had a big smile on your face. You were proud of who you were and i dont think there was ANYONE who disliked you. When i found out about this terrible accident my heart sank. Ben you will always be in my heart. Dont worry, i promise you that we will honor you at graduation, you deserve it! My prayers and thoughts are to your family. and i dont consider this a good-bye, this is more of a “see you soon”! 🙂
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Brittany Smith
March 14, 2011 at 10:54 pm
Ben was a good friend of my brother Storm since Kindergarten. He was a very kind-hearted person. I was very saddened to hear what had happened to Ben as was my whole family. I can only imagine what you are feeling right now, but my thoughts and prayers are with your family.
“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal”.
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Blayne Gibson
March 14, 2011 at 11:00 pm
Ben we have been the same classes since freshman year and we always had fun when we were in those classes and everyone misses you man. Rest In Peace Bud and ill make sure your name will remembered forever.
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storm
March 14, 2011 at 11:43 pm
Dave and Annette, I’m so sorry Ben was such a good kid i can honestly say that Ben was like my brother. I’m not one that is known to cry and it seems as tho it keeps happening. i love that kid. This is such a tragedy. i remember him always talking to me telling me it would be ok or i know storm he is better than that or he would stick up for me if i was gonna get introuble and he would help me and tell the teacher that i didn’t do anything if it was the truth. i will always remember comming over and playing video games or playing with those farret’s or riding bikes all the time. the only time Ive laughed today was thinking of the good times we had. he used to tease me and everything because i wouldnt jump into the pool because it was cold and he always got me in there some how. ben you are with the big guy now and i guess what they say is everything happens for a reason and i guess thats what happened. well i love ya ben. R.I.P. bro
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Bobby
March 15, 2011 at 2:08 am
I didn’t know Ben, but I do know that no one deserves go at such a young age like that, Dave and Annette, you guys are in my thoughts and prayers every night, so sorry for you loss.
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Ed & Mynard Gale
March 15, 2011 at 3:31 am
Remembering Benjamin C. Selby …
“Rather than mourn the absence of his flame,
let us celebrate how brightly he shined.”
-ed & mynard gale
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Jan Sell-Kimble
March 15, 2011 at 5:40 am
Dear Annette and Dave,
My heart is so very heavy with grief. PLEASE know that people who love you and care about you are here to offer up friendship, support and love as you cope during this VERY difficult time.
I remember meeting you when you came to aide for me. I had the privilege of meeting Ben too. Later, Ben became my student. I will ALWAYS remember his spunky personality and his bright, happy smiling face,
You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
Warmly,
Jan Sell-Kimble
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tyler husar
March 15, 2011 at 6:33 am
ben was a good friend sory for the loss r i p ben
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Samantha Newell
March 15, 2011 at 6:40 am
While I only had Ben in class a short time, he would always say ‘hi’ to me in the hall. I am sorry for your loss.
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Shawn & Maggie Boeskool
March 15, 2011 at 7:02 am
We are so sorry to hear about Ben, we were your neighbors for years up until last December when we moved. Ben was always so polite and nice always brought our dog home when she followed him…he will be missed…our thoughts and prayers go out to you.
Shawn & Maggie
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Dawn LaVoy
March 15, 2011 at 7:37 am
I worked with Ben during my first year at Starr, and I remember him as being the highlight of my workday during an otherwise difficult year. He was friendly, cheerful, easy-going, and always a hard worker, even when the task was difficult. He gained hero status among his peers when, through hard work and perseverance, he conquered the “extra help” math group and moved up to the next level of 5th grade math! He is well-loved and remembered by his Starr family.
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Barb & Dave Blanchard
March 15, 2011 at 9:00 am
We are so sorry for your loss. We did not know Ben personally; but I have worked with his Aunt Marilyn and Uncle Glen for many years. They are wonderful people and are very dear to my heart. May all of you find strength from your family’s love, and healing from God’s love. Our thoughts and prayers
Barb & Dave
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Sherri Vassau
March 15, 2011 at 9:06 am
Dear Dave and Annette,,
I am just heart broken and a without words for your loss. I am not sure how to respond?, for your pain was always one of my worst night mares as a parent. Ben was a great young man…he was so kind-hearted.. One of a kind now days…he was extremely motivated and had a love for everything. Always smiling and a wave when riding by my house, like he enjoyed and took in the fresh air of the world without worries,, Always a pleasure to see him. I am so sorry..He will be remembered and I know God has given him a special place.
Sincerely, Sherri Vassau
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Larry and Patty Davidson
March 15, 2011 at 9:24 am
David and Annette, We are so sorry! We had only met Ben a couple of times. What a great kid! Our thoughts and prayers are with you at the time of your loss. Sincerely! LD and Patty
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Tyler & Tara Macomber
March 15, 2011 at 9:34 am
Tara and i cannot even express how sorry we are for the loss of Ben. Even though i didnt get to see him that often, every time i did he made me smile. That was something about Ben is he could always make you smile. We will all miss you and cant wait to see you in Jehovah’s paradise.
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Katie Tustin
March 15, 2011 at 10:24 am
My heartfelt condolences to your family during this most difficult time. I knew Ben from Starr Elementary where I worked with him during kindergarten circle time. What I remember most about Ben is that he always had a smile on his face and seemed so joyful about life. He was always a hard worker and willing to tackle whatever task was at hand. It was an honor and privilege to have known him. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
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Clint & Stacy Luttrell and kids
March 15, 2011 at 11:25 am
Ben will be missed. He seemed to grow up so quickly. From a chubby cheeked kid to a handsome and very sweet young man. He was a great hunting buddy and will not be replaced. We look forward to seeing him again. It can’t come soon enough. Our thoughts and prayers are especially w/ Dave and Annette in this difficult time.
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Stephen & Trina Knox
March 15, 2011 at 12:29 pm
We are saddened to hear of your loss.
May you find comfort through Jehovah’s’ promise.
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Karmen & Lee Brown
March 15, 2011 at 1:15 pm
Annette & Dave I’m so sorry for your loss, “Jehovah is near to those that are broken at Heart and those who are crushed in spirit He saves” Psalms 34:18. Ben was a sweet and loving little boy and we had so many great times together. I look forward to seeing him again in the New System. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.
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Angela Schmitt-Hoffman
March 15, 2011 at 2:23 pm
Oh Annette…as the tv played on silent this morning…I saw Ben’s picture… My heart is breaking for you and Dave…I’m sure I cannot even comprehend your grief. Please know that you are in so so many thoughts and prayers of people who’s lives are better just for meeting the Selbys. I read somewhere that
“The stars in the sky are not stars at all, but tiny holes in the floor of Heaven for our loved ones to watch us by.”
in friendship ~ Angela
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Elizabeth Beeman
March 15, 2011 at 3:41 pm
You were always so outgoing, talkative, and kind. You were in my driving group for driver’s ed. and you always made the long drives more entertaining. I will be thinking of you as we drive our last drive after school this wednesday. I will miss your bright, smiling face in the hallways and especially tomorrow in the car. Just the fact that I know you are in Heaven now with God gives me some peace and happiness, but I will always miss you here, on Earth, Ben. Thanks for the memories, I’ll keep them forever! ♥
My heart and prayers go out to his family, I will always remember Ben and our class (2013) will always keep him in our hearts and thoughts and when graduation comes, he will be brought to the front of our minds. I promise we will honor Ben in all of our graduation ceremonies.
Thanks, again, for everything. You helped bring a smile to my face and to many others. <3
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Joni Cook
March 15, 2011 at 4:26 pm
Annette and David, Our thoughts and prayers are with you both at this most difficult time. God bless you both…….Perfect Tan Salon employees
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Katelyn Steele
March 15, 2011 at 5:15 pm
Ben was an all around amazing person. Since elementary i was able to spend time with him and get to know him. He was the nicest boy and had a smile on his face that never disappeared. He will be missed by everyone. I will continue to pray for your family during this difficult time, and hope that God will grant you the strength you need.
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Adrianna Wagendorp
March 15, 2011 at 5:50 pm
Ben and I were friends since grade school, we were always in the same english and math classes to 8th grade. You will be missed Ben. Rest in peace and may god be with you.
To: Mother and Father, just be strong, you had a very bright and out going son, and he can never be replaced. You are in my prayers.
Adrianna.
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Cindy & Cody Hofacker
March 15, 2011 at 7:31 pm
Dave and Annette my heart is going out to you on the loss Ben we have not been close but i was remembering when he was young and him and cody played when you babysat cody.I look at his picture and how much of a great kid he had become.My best story of Ben is when he and dave would come thru the drivethru at little caesars for there regular italian cheese bread he always had a big smile on his face.I make sure i tell cody i love him all the time now and he is wearing his camo on friday for Ben.
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Judy Shumaker
March 15, 2011 at 7:57 pm
I am so very sorry for your loss, Mr. and Mrs. Selby. I work in the cafeteria at Plainwell High School and Ben would come through my line at lunch time quite often. When I heard about his accident on Monday, I checked his picture on my register and recognized him right away. He always had a smile on his face and such a nice personality. Please know that I am keeping you in my thoughts and sending my most sincere sympathy to you and your family. It is so sad to think of him being gone at such a very young age. He will be dearly missed at school. Our thoughts are with you.
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Kathy VanGoeye
March 15, 2011 at 7:57 pm
I remember Ben in the early elementary years at Starr and Annette always being there. You would be right at his side walking him to class and waiting for that bell to ring at the end of the day to see him again. He had such a great happy go lucky spirit and was loved so much by his parents with no doubt. Know that our family is praying for you during this difficult time and time to come. Kathy, Eric, Caleb, Cameron, and Cole
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Danene Gless
March 15, 2011 at 8:31 pm
Dear Dave & Annette,
I was devastated to hear about Ben. My daughter (Katelyn) and Ben were both at Sandy Lash’s daycare. I also helped out at the Teen Center where Ben would come sometimes.
What I remember most about Ben was his constant smile and loving personality. I could always tell when we would pick up at Lash’s at the same time how patient and loving you both were with him.
I am so very sorry. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Danene & Kate
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Lee Whittle
March 15, 2011 at 8:34 pm
I never really knew Ben that well, I probably only talked to him a couple of times. But he was good friends with a friend of mine and that alone tells me how good of a guy he was. It is devastating what happened. I just want you to know that the family is in my prayers. God be with you all. Rest in peace Bud.
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Kara Gruber
March 15, 2011 at 8:58 pm
I didn’t have the chance to get to know Ben as I moved to WI a few months into the school year when he was a freshman but I remember seeing him in the hall at school and the thing I remember most is that he always seemed to have a smile on his face. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. RIP Ben. You will be greatly missed.
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Tammy (LaMie) Weidemann and Family
March 15, 2011 at 9:52 pm
My dearest “Annettie” and hubby David,
I have just recently heard of the loss of your precious son Ben, and have to tell you that my heart is aching for you both, and your whole family. Reading these condolences sure tells me that your personality was very much reflected in your son. I wish I’d met him, but feel like I know him just by reflecting on what I remember of you. Clearly he was a delightful soul who enriched your lives. The resurection hope is a very powerful thing, and I hope you cling to it with all your heart. I love you little cousin, and at this time we are crying with you. Hopefully very soon, we will all cry tears of joy. I look forward to meeting your Son then.
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Jennifer Husar
March 15, 2011 at 10:03 pm
Dave & Annette,
My son Tyler was friends with “Benny” (as I called him). He spent so much time at my home sharing his life with my boys, I considered him another one of my own. My heart has been heavy with grief since we heard of his passing. Benny was so good with my youngest, Jagger(who is 6). He just took him under his wing and made sure they all played together. I cannot even begin to know how you feel, please know that we grieve with you and we are praying for your family, have joy in the hope that we will see our benny again someday.
Sending only our best
Matt, Jennifer, Tyler, Nicky and Jagger Husar
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Nicole Hoover
March 15, 2011 at 10:16 pm
Even though i didnt know Ben personally, I knew his cousin Kevin. I know that he was a good person and being raised Catholic, I know he is in a better place now and that having him pass at this age was part of God’s plan. My grandmoher, whom I Ioved very dearly, passed away last Monday (March 6th, 2011), so I know what it is like to go through this. My family and I send our dearest condolences to your family.
Yours Truely,
Nicole. (:
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Sarah and Derek Pearson
March 15, 2011 at 10:50 pm
We feel your sorrow and our prayers are with your family.
We can all be comforted by the resurrection hope provided by Jehovah God.
We all can look forward to that wonderful time when we will see our loved ones again..
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Richard Mullins
March 15, 2011 at 11:08 pm
To the parents of Ben, im very sorry for your loss, i first became his friend a couple years ago and ever since we became friends and we became best friends also, he was a good kid and he was kind hearted, i really miss my best friend and i know you miss him more and i am very sorry for your loss
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Kathy DeKuiper
March 16, 2011 at 8:56 am
I was so sorry to learn of Ben’s passing. Ben was in my Second Grade class at Starr and I remember him always as a kind and courteous student. My sympathy to you.
Sincerely,
Kathy DeKuiper
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Judy Tice
March 16, 2011 at 10:22 am
We are so very sorry and saddened for the loss of Ben and don’t really know what to say. He loved life, his parents, and dogs. We spent time fishing together at Swan Lake a couple of summers ago, he was sure he caught the most fish! We enjoyed having him over to visit at Mike’s house. He loved to tease and hang with the guys. He loved playing with Barney the beagle, and the other dogs. Ben had a lovely smile that would light up the room. Our sympathies and prayers to you. We will miss him.
Judy Tice and Mike Lash.
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ron and karla princing
March 16, 2011 at 12:36 pm
For your loss we grieve. Ben wanted to learn and do everything with wood sometimes all at once. The list of projects to do was long. Not all was woodworking in the Shop. We talked of many things in the shop and to and from the carving meetings. Some what he called life stuff. He even tried to keep me up to date with new bands,saying i need to keep a open mind. We were making plans to start a business doing Ero mounts and walking sticks. But with it all came the COMEDY quick with a joke or a poke.”Yea Yea I know carve down hill sand sand sand’. What that? It was a Jake moment”
Know that Ben loved you very much, family and friendship came first . He was well on his way to being a fine young Man
Their will be a empty spot in my shop
Ron and Karla
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Angela Kutsche
March 16, 2011 at 1:02 pm
I had know Ben ever since I was young. He was always so nice and such a sweetheart. He’ll be missed. The good die young but heaven got another angel.
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catrina roberts, cheryl holiday , vickie gouin
March 16, 2011 at 2:29 pm
Dear, Ben’s family we are so very sorry for your loss and we will pray for you guys everyday and ben was a great friend to cheryl , catrina and he was always the smiling type at school until somebody made him mad but we just hope that you guys can just understand that god has a plan for everybody’s life but don’t get us wrong ben didn’t deserve to die in that way or any other way either . but also ben is watching over all of us just thinking i hope they are not crying too much for me but he knows that we all miss him very much and that all us his friends love him as well as his family too you guys are great people thank you ben for being so nice to everybody
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Tabitha Day
March 16, 2011 at 9:35 pm
To Ben’s family, i am very sorry for your loss.. Ben was a Really good friend of mine, i started school this year at Plainwell, and since i met Ben. He became like my bestestest friend ever, he was my inspiration. We shared so many memorys togather in Mr. Balamante’s class. He always cheered me up when i was down, he knew what to say. He was a very sweet guy.. who cared about everyone, had so much respect for everyone. He pretty much had a awesome personality.. Ben You will never be forgot’ You will always remain my bestestest friend ever. RIP Ben.
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brenton elkins
March 17, 2011 at 12:30 pm
Ben you were a great friend will always remember the time we spent together and laughs we shared you were the kindest person i know you were a great friend with good potential will love and miss you
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zac
March 17, 2011 at 9:18 pm
he seems like a good kid’
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Doug&Cathy Coulson
March 17, 2011 at 10:25 pm
David and Annette, We are so sorry! Our thoughts and prayers are with you at the time of your loss
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Sharon (Spicer) Crawford
March 18, 2011 at 11:24 am
Annette, It has been many years since I seen you, but I offer my deepest reqrets at the loss of your son (Ben). I understand he was your only child, I feel that pain, I almost lost my only child Nicole in a car accident a few years ago. I hope that Jehovah’s strenth will carry you through this very hard time in your life.
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Katie Hilsbos
March 22, 2022 at 10:10 am
Katie Hilsbos
I am going to miss you Ben Selby
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Ben was born August 18, 1995 in Grand Rapids, the son of David and Annette (Macomber) Selby. He was a sophomore at Plainwell High School and was a member of the Fennville Rod and Gun Club. Ben was an avid fisherman and loved the outdoors and woodworking.
Surviving are his parents; a half-brother, David Selby, Jr; his grandparents, Quincy and Lavina Dunlap of Allegan and Everett and Clare Macomber of Gun Lake; aunts and uncles; Jeanette (Vic) Ferris, Todd (Shelly) Macomber, Karmen (Lee) Brown, Tad (Trisha) Macomber, Marilyn (Glen) Rice, Mick (Carol) Selby and Jim (Joy) Selby; many cousins.
Friends may meet with Ben’s family from 2 to 4 and 6 to 8 P.M. Wednesday at the
Winkel Funeral Home, Otsego,
where funeral services will be held at 1:00 P.M. Thursday. Burial will follow at Hillside Cemetery.
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Mr. Ken Moore
March 14, 2011 at 12:53 pm
This is to the family of Ben Selby, a friend of my son, Andrew, and one of my recreational summer baseball kids. I send my condolences to the family, as well as a thanks for making my son, Andrew, a part of Ben’s life. Andrew enjoyed coming to the house to hang out with Ben, and I always enjoyed hearing when Ben called to ask if Andrew could come and visit. Ben was a good ball player, and always had a good spirit when he talked to me. Him and Andrew saw a few movies together at the M-89 theater, and Andrew always said he enjoyed himself. God Bless all of you, and again, I send condolences at the loss of Ben. He was a great kid.
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Sara Smith
March 14, 2011 at 1:04 pm
Ben & I had almost every class together every year since fourth grade. He always knew how to keep a smile on everyone’s face and knew how to bring everyone’s mood up in a jiff. He was an amazing friend to everyone. He will be missed by many. He will always be in my heart as the smiley and happy guy he was. I’m sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers.
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Kelly Laker
March 14, 2011 at 1:54 pm
May God give you comfort and strength to help you with your loss. Ben will be remembered and missed.
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Maurer Family
March 14, 2011 at 2:24 pm
Heartbroken to hear the sad news. Victoria has always been so fond of Ben, he will be missed. Praying that Jehovah gives you the comfort and strength you need. In our thoughts and prayers…..
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Phil, Katie and Ben Neslund
March 14, 2011 at 2:30 pm
You are in our prayers, Dave and Annette. We are so sorry to hear about Ben. Phil and I remembered, fondly, when your Ben used to call our Ben “Curly” and how he said it with that teeny tiny little voice of his. May God bless you now and forever.
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Uncle Tad & Aunt Thrisha
March 14, 2011 at 3:03 pm
We will look forward to seeing you again in Gods, new order. You will be missed. We will always miss teasing ya and messing around.
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Zeb and Shayla Brown
March 14, 2011 at 3:12 pm
Hay Benny we love you so much cant waight to see your smiling face in paridice with all the rest of your family that loves you your mom n dad will be taken cair of till we all see you again thats a promis love you lots shay n zeb
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Jeannette Ferris
March 14, 2011 at 3:13 pm
Vic and I are so sorry for your loss. The only thing I can think of is that everyday that passes is one day closer to seeing Ben again. You both are in our prayers.
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Uncle Tad N Trisha Macomber
March 14, 2011 at 3:19 pm
We will see ya in Gods new order. We sure will miss you. We will never forget your good nature, and how well you always took our teasing. Even when it was about your hair.
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Nicole Stopa (Macomber)
March 14, 2011 at 3:51 pm
Ben was my little cousin. It seems like just yesterday he was a little boy but how fast he grew up and truned into a young man. I did not get to spend much time with him but the time i did spend with him he was always so happy and always had a joke up his sleeve. He will be missed so so much by us all and by Jehovah God who will so soon wake him up to be with us again in paradise.
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Stuart & Teresa Sebright
March 14, 2011 at 4:01 pm
Our most sincere condolences on your loss. We heard about Ben last night from Lavina.
Ben was a good friend to our boys Kyle and Jacob. We would often see him when he was at his grandparents. Ben loved to fish with our boys in the pond or do anything outdoors. We liked that he encouraged our boys to do more outdoors and get away from their video games. He was always very upbeat and courtious.
We and our boys will miss him. May God give all of you strength and comfort during this time.
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Emily, Cheryl, and Sarah Soderquist
March 14, 2011 at 4:11 pm
Emily has known Ben since elementary and is holding onto the memories of the fun times in school. We are so sorry for the loss of your son, Ben. Thoughts and prayers for the sadness you and your family are going through. His absence will be felt by many more people than you can realize.
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Lindy Holmes
March 14, 2011 at 5:05 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. Ben was an amazing kid here on earth and will be an amazing angel in heaven. Of course this world will miss his beautiful smile but it is comforting to know we will see him again someday.
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Linda Brubaker
March 14, 2011 at 6:08 pm
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I never met Ben but hearing you talk about him he must have been a wonderful son and a GOD send to you both.Just know that he is being taken care of and Loved. If you ever need anything just get ahold of me.
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Crossoak Family Dentistry
March 14, 2011 at 6:31 pm
David and Annette,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. We all loved “little Ben” he was such a great young man. Always had a smile for everyone in our office.
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Tom, Candy, Alexis and Brianna Burress
March 14, 2011 at 6:33 pm
Dave and Annette, our heart felt condolences to both of you. Ben was such a joy to be around always full of energy and spunk. He will surely be missed. You two will be in our thoughts and prayers.
With Love Always.
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Samantha Brouwer
March 14, 2011 at 6:56 pm
I may have never met Ben but I was very sad when the teachers told me of his death. I went to school with him and it was a shame that I didn’t have a chance. May he rest in peace and may your broken hearts heal in the future.
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Rita Boylan
March 14, 2011 at 6:59 pm
I’m so so so very sorry to hear about Ben, when I found out my heart just dropped. He was such a great friend and I wish I could have spent more time with him in school. I will miss him so much. May God be with you in this time, we’ll all miss his loving kind smile.
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jamie selby dunklee
March 14, 2011 at 7:02 pm
i’m so very sorry for your loss, I did not know Ben very well but what i did know of him he was a good kid but know now that he’s up hunting and fishing with grandpa Mick and driving him and grandma around hope those angels stay off the side walk ben’s coming through, my thoughts and prayers are with you guys
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Sandy Demyanovich
March 14, 2011 at 7:08 pm
Thought of Ben a lot today as I worked at Starr, many good memories of our kids together there. I pray that you too, will remember all those good times you had with him and that they will help you overcome the sadness you are feeling now.
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Stephen Cramer
March 14, 2011 at 7:10 pm
As a substitute teacher I’ve known Ben since he was in 5th grade. Ben was always a good student for me. His smile was contagious, he laughed a lot, and he seemed to genuinely enjoy life. It’s tragic to see such a life lost so early. My family and I are praying for Ben, his family and friends, and the rest of the community. Our heartfelt condolences go out to all of you.
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Dalene Anson
March 14, 2011 at 7:49 pm
Hi Annette and Dave,
I was terribly saddened to hear about your loss. I will not be able to attend the visitation or funeral as my husband is undergoing treatment for cancer in Ann Arbor and we are gone during the week, but I wanted you to know how deeply sorry I am. I hope that God will grant you strength to endure this difficult time.
Dalene Anson
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allie meingasner
March 14, 2011 at 7:55 pm
honey sincere condolences for you and david we just have to know he is a better place.wish i could be there for you both.you know where i am if you need me.love you both.
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hunter currier
March 14, 2011 at 7:56 pm
i am so sorry to hear about your loss. i met ben in math class and he seemed like the niceest kid he will be missed by many. ben and his family are in my prayers.
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Cindy Yonkers, Fennville Rod & Gun Club
March 14, 2011 at 7:57 pm
All of us at the Club will miss Ben dearly and offer our condolences to the family. Not long ago he helped cook chicken with the crew and helped me get the Newsletters folded and ready for mailing.
He was a great kid – always with a smile on his face. He’s at peace..
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Bethany Peacock
March 14, 2011 at 7:57 pm
Personally, I did not know Ben. But, I did see him during lunch this past year on occasion. He always looked so happy, and it’s breath-taking that he is no longer physically with us. It makes me really think about taking things for granted. So, I thank Ben for teaching me this; even though I do regret his death. I am so sorry to Ben’s family and friends, but at least he lived the life he wanted.
“The good always die young.”
Keep that in mind.
You’ll be in my prayers.
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Tyler hatfield
March 14, 2011 at 8:02 pm
Ben will be missed from all of us at Plainwell high. i met him at breakfast last year and he became a friend. r.i.p bud. we all miss you
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Emily Goodrich
March 14, 2011 at 8:30 pm
Hi well i was really good friends with Ben same with my brother Brett Goodrcih we were both really sad that he had passed away. Ben he was in 2 of my classes with me 3rd tri and he was in 1 with my brother. i am a freshman.. he always played around in classes and during passing time and now i will be missing that i sat by him at lunch if we had the same lunch he was a great kid.. i am really sorry about your loss with Ben.. i will talk to my mom and my brother about us coming to the funeral services..
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Emily
March 14, 2011 at 9:00 pm
Ben’s family, I used to go to the high schoool and hug Ben all the time and when i saw this i couldn’t belive this. i will miss ben soooo much i love him as a brother and i will never forget him ever.
Sincerly Emily<3
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Sammie Harris
March 14, 2011 at 9:00 pm
I have had Ben in my school since Kindergarden and even though we didn’t have the same teachers we had recess together and all through middle school we had classes together and freshmen and sophmore year. He was a very nice person and he would make everyone smile if they were down.
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Bonnie McDonald
March 14, 2011 at 9:07 pm
Dear Annette and Dave so sorry to here about Ben. i know words wont make the hurt go away.Just know that your family and friends are here for you. i will pray for you to have the strength to go on.
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adam
March 14, 2011 at 9:24 pm
hey Ben, everyone at school will miss you
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sarah
March 14, 2011 at 9:49 pm
Dave and Annette, I am so very sorry for your loss. Ben was such a terrific kid. He was such a good friend to Storm. They definately had some good times together. Little Ben (as I always called him) and that sweet smile of his will be sadly missed. My prayers go out to you both and may God be with you during these difficult times. Love always Sarah and Storm
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Rachel Wilgenhof
March 14, 2011 at 10:07 pm
There is an event I’m trying to get started at my school this friday, In honor of Ben, we’re getting as many people as we can to wear camo. Ben was such a sweet kid. I’ve gone to school with him for 11 years now and my most recent memories with him were in my physics class. he constantly talked of his family and his aspirations and hunting and just about everything he cared about. He was passionate about the things he set his mind to and he was confident in the work he did, even in physics.. I’m gonna miss you bud.. rest in peace <3
link for the event on friday–
http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=209402155742488¬if_t=event_wall#!/event.php?eid=209402155742488
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Kati Riston
March 14, 2011 at 10:18 pm
Ben, you were an amazing kid. We never were really close friends but everyday when i walked by you in the halls you had a big smile on your face. You were proud of who you were and i dont think there was ANYONE who disliked you. When i found out about this terrible accident my heart sank. Ben you will always be in my heart. Dont worry, i promise you that we will honor you at graduation, you deserve it! My prayers and thoughts are to your family. and i dont consider this a good-bye, this is more of a “see you soon”! 🙂
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Brittany Smith
March 14, 2011 at 10:54 pm
Ben was a good friend of my brother Storm since Kindergarten. He was a very kind-hearted person. I was very saddened to hear what had happened to Ben as was my whole family. I can only imagine what you are feeling right now, but my thoughts and prayers are with your family.
“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal”.
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Blayne Gibson
March 14, 2011 at 11:00 pm
Ben we have been the same classes since freshman year and we always had fun when we were in those classes and everyone misses you man. Rest In Peace Bud and ill make sure your name will remembered forever.
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storm
March 14, 2011 at 11:43 pm
Dave and Annette, I’m so sorry Ben was such a good kid i can honestly say that Ben was like my brother. I’m not one that is known to cry and it seems as tho it keeps happening. i love that kid. This is such a tragedy. i remember him always talking to me telling me it would be ok or i know storm he is better than that or he would stick up for me if i was gonna get introuble and he would help me and tell the teacher that i didn’t do anything if it was the truth. i will always remember comming over and playing video games or playing with those farret’s or riding bikes all the time. the only time Ive laughed today was thinking of the good times we had. he used to tease me and everything because i wouldnt jump into the pool because it was cold and he always got me in there some how. ben you are with the big guy now and i guess what they say is everything happens for a reason and i guess thats what happened. well i love ya ben. R.I.P. bro
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Bobby
March 15, 2011 at 2:08 am
I didn’t know Ben, but I do know that no one deserves go at such a young age like that, Dave and Annette, you guys are in my thoughts and prayers every night, so sorry for you loss.
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Ed & Mynard Gale
March 15, 2011 at 3:31 am
Remembering Benjamin C. Selby …
“Rather than mourn the absence of his flame,
let us celebrate how brightly he shined.”
-ed & mynard gale
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Jan Sell-Kimble
March 15, 2011 at 5:40 am
Dear Annette and Dave,
My heart is so very heavy with grief. PLEASE know that people who love you and care about you are here to offer up friendship, support and love as you cope during this VERY difficult time.
I remember meeting you when you came to aide for me. I had the privilege of meeting Ben too. Later, Ben became my student. I will ALWAYS remember his spunky personality and his bright, happy smiling face,
You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
Warmly,
Jan Sell-Kimble
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tyler husar
March 15, 2011 at 6:33 am
ben was a good friend sory for the loss r i p ben
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Samantha Newell
March 15, 2011 at 6:40 am
While I only had Ben in class a short time, he would always say ‘hi’ to me in the hall. I am sorry for your loss.
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Shawn & Maggie Boeskool
March 15, 2011 at 7:02 am
We are so sorry to hear about Ben, we were your neighbors for years up until last December when we moved. Ben was always so polite and nice always brought our dog home when she followed him…he will be missed…our thoughts and prayers go out to you.
Shawn & Maggie
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Dawn LaVoy
March 15, 2011 at 7:37 am
I worked with Ben during my first year at Starr, and I remember him as being the highlight of my workday during an otherwise difficult year. He was friendly, cheerful, easy-going, and always a hard worker, even when the task was difficult. He gained hero status among his peers when, through hard work and perseverance, he conquered the “extra help” math group and moved up to the next level of 5th grade math! He is well-loved and remembered by his Starr family.
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Barb & Dave Blanchard
March 15, 2011 at 9:00 am
We are so sorry for your loss. We did not know Ben personally; but I have worked with his Aunt Marilyn and Uncle Glen for many years. They are wonderful people and are very dear to my heart. May all of you find strength from your family’s love, and healing from God’s love. Our thoughts and prayers
Barb & Dave
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Sherri Vassau
March 15, 2011 at 9:06 am
Dear Dave and Annette,,
I am just heart broken and a without words for your loss. I am not sure how to respond?, for your pain was always one of my worst night mares as a parent. Ben was a great young man…he was so kind-hearted.. One of a kind now days…he was extremely motivated and had a love for everything. Always smiling and a wave when riding by my house, like he enjoyed and took in the fresh air of the world without worries,, Always a pleasure to see him. I am so sorry..He will be remembered and I know God has given him a special place.
Sincerely, Sherri Vassau
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Larry and Patty Davidson
March 15, 2011 at 9:24 am
David and Annette, We are so sorry! We had only met Ben a couple of times. What a great kid! Our thoughts and prayers are with you at the time of your loss. Sincerely! LD and Patty
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Tyler & Tara Macomber
March 15, 2011 at 9:34 am
Tara and i cannot even express how sorry we are for the loss of Ben. Even though i didnt get to see him that often, every time i did he made me smile. That was something about Ben is he could always make you smile. We will all miss you and cant wait to see you in Jehovah’s paradise.
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Katie Tustin
March 15, 2011 at 10:24 am
My heartfelt condolences to your family during this most difficult time. I knew Ben from Starr Elementary where I worked with him during kindergarten circle time. What I remember most about Ben is that he always had a smile on his face and seemed so joyful about life. He was always a hard worker and willing to tackle whatever task was at hand. It was an honor and privilege to have known him. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
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Clint & Stacy Luttrell and kids
March 15, 2011 at 11:25 am
Ben will be missed. He seemed to grow up so quickly. From a chubby cheeked kid to a handsome and very sweet young man. He was a great hunting buddy and will not be replaced. We look forward to seeing him again. It can’t come soon enough. Our thoughts and prayers are especially w/ Dave and Annette in this difficult time.
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Stephen & Trina Knox
March 15, 2011 at 12:29 pm
We are saddened to hear of your loss.
May you find comfort through Jehovah’s’ promise.
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Karmen & Lee Brown
March 15, 2011 at 1:15 pm
Annette & Dave I’m so sorry for your loss, “Jehovah is near to those that are broken at Heart and those who are crushed in spirit He saves” Psalms 34:18. Ben was a sweet and loving little boy and we had so many great times together. I look forward to seeing him again in the New System. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.
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Angela Schmitt-Hoffman
March 15, 2011 at 2:23 pm
Oh Annette…as the tv played on silent this morning…I saw Ben’s picture… My heart is breaking for you and Dave…I’m sure I cannot even comprehend your grief. Please know that you are in so so many thoughts and prayers of people who’s lives are better just for meeting the Selbys. I read somewhere that
“The stars in the sky are not stars at all, but tiny holes in the floor of Heaven for our loved ones to watch us by.”
in friendship ~ Angela
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Elizabeth Beeman
March 15, 2011 at 3:41 pm
You were always so outgoing, talkative, and kind. You were in my driving group for driver’s ed. and you always made the long drives more entertaining. I will be thinking of you as we drive our last drive after school this wednesday. I will miss your bright, smiling face in the hallways and especially tomorrow in the car. Just the fact that I know you are in Heaven now with God gives me some peace and happiness, but I will always miss you here, on Earth, Ben. Thanks for the memories, I’ll keep them forever! ♥
My heart and prayers go out to his family, I will always remember Ben and our class (2013) will always keep him in our hearts and thoughts and when graduation comes, he will be brought to the front of our minds. I promise we will honor Ben in all of our graduation ceremonies.
Thanks, again, for everything. You helped bring a smile to my face and to many others. <3
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Joni Cook
March 15, 2011 at 4:26 pm
Annette and David, Our thoughts and prayers are with you both at this most difficult time. God bless you both…….Perfect Tan Salon employees
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Katelyn Steele
March 15, 2011 at 5:15 pm
Ben was an all around amazing person. Since elementary i was able to spend time with him and get to know him. He was the nicest boy and had a smile on his face that never disappeared. He will be missed by everyone. I will continue to pray for your family during this difficult time, and hope that God will grant you the strength you need.
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Adrianna Wagendorp
March 15, 2011 at 5:50 pm
Ben and I were friends since grade school, we were always in the same english and math classes to 8th grade. You will be missed Ben. Rest in peace and may god be with you.
To: Mother and Father, just be strong, you had a very bright and out going son, and he can never be replaced. You are in my prayers.
Adrianna.
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Cindy & Cody Hofacker
March 15, 2011 at 7:31 pm
Dave and Annette my heart is going out to you on the loss Ben we have not been close but i was remembering when he was young and him and cody played when you babysat cody.I look at his picture and how much of a great kid he had become.My best story of Ben is when he and dave would come thru the drivethru at little caesars for there regular italian cheese bread he always had a big smile on his face.I make sure i tell cody i love him all the time now and he is wearing his camo on friday for Ben.
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Judy Shumaker
March 15, 2011 at 7:57 pm
I am so very sorry for your loss, Mr. and Mrs. Selby. I work in the cafeteria at Plainwell High School and Ben would come through my line at lunch time quite often. When I heard about his accident on Monday, I checked his picture on my register and recognized him right away. He always had a smile on his face and such a nice personality. Please know that I am keeping you in my thoughts and sending my most sincere sympathy to you and your family. It is so sad to think of him being gone at such a very young age. He will be dearly missed at school. Our thoughts are with you.
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Kathy VanGoeye
March 15, 2011 at 7:57 pm
I remember Ben in the early elementary years at Starr and Annette always being there. You would be right at his side walking him to class and waiting for that bell to ring at the end of the day to see him again. He had such a great happy go lucky spirit and was loved so much by his parents with no doubt. Know that our family is praying for you during this difficult time and time to come. Kathy, Eric, Caleb, Cameron, and Cole
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Danene Gless
March 15, 2011 at 8:31 pm
Dear Dave & Annette,
I was devastated to hear about Ben. My daughter (Katelyn) and Ben were both at Sandy Lash’s daycare. I also helped out at the Teen Center where Ben would come sometimes.
What I remember most about Ben was his constant smile and loving personality. I could always tell when we would pick up at Lash’s at the same time how patient and loving you both were with him.
I am so very sorry. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Danene & Kate
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Lee Whittle
March 15, 2011 at 8:34 pm
I never really knew Ben that well, I probably only talked to him a couple of times. But he was good friends with a friend of mine and that alone tells me how good of a guy he was. It is devastating what happened. I just want you to know that the family is in my prayers. God be with you all. Rest in peace Bud.
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Kara Gruber
March 15, 2011 at 8:58 pm
I didn’t have the chance to get to know Ben as I moved to WI a few months into the school year when he was a freshman but I remember seeing him in the hall at school and the thing I remember most is that he always seemed to have a smile on his face. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. RIP Ben. You will be greatly missed.
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Tammy (LaMie) Weidemann and Family
March 15, 2011 at 9:52 pm
My dearest “Annettie” and hubby David,
I have just recently heard of the loss of your precious son Ben, and have to tell you that my heart is aching for you both, and your whole family. Reading these condolences sure tells me that your personality was very much reflected in your son. I wish I’d met him, but feel like I know him just by reflecting on what I remember of you. Clearly he was a delightful soul who enriched your lives. The resurection hope is a very powerful thing, and I hope you cling to it with all your heart. I love you little cousin, and at this time we are crying with you. Hopefully very soon, we will all cry tears of joy. I look forward to meeting your Son then.
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Jennifer Husar
March 15, 2011 at 10:03 pm
Dave & Annette,
My son Tyler was friends with “Benny” (as I called him). He spent so much time at my home sharing his life with my boys, I considered him another one of my own. My heart has been heavy with grief since we heard of his passing. Benny was so good with my youngest, Jagger(who is 6). He just took him under his wing and made sure they all played together. I cannot even begin to know how you feel, please know that we grieve with you and we are praying for your family, have joy in the hope that we will see our benny again someday.
Sending only our best
Matt, Jennifer, Tyler, Nicky and Jagger Husar
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Nicole Hoover
March 15, 2011 at 10:16 pm
Even though i didnt know Ben personally, I knew his cousin Kevin. I know that he was a good person and being raised Catholic, I know he is in a better place now and that having him pass at this age was part of God’s plan. My grandmoher, whom I Ioved very dearly, passed away last Monday (March 6th, 2011), so I know what it is like to go through this. My family and I send our dearest condolences to your family.
Yours Truely,
Nicole. (:
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Sarah and Derek Pearson
March 15, 2011 at 10:50 pm
We feel your sorrow and our prayers are with your family.
We can all be comforted by the resurrection hope provided by Jehovah God.
We all can look forward to that wonderful time when we will see our loved ones again..
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Richard Mullins
March 15, 2011 at 11:08 pm
To the parents of Ben, im very sorry for your loss, i first became his friend a couple years ago and ever since we became friends and we became best friends also, he was a good kid and he was kind hearted, i really miss my best friend and i know you miss him more and i am very sorry for your loss
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Kathy DeKuiper
March 16, 2011 at 8:56 am
I was so sorry to learn of Ben’s passing. Ben was in my Second Grade class at Starr and I remember him always as a kind and courteous student. My sympathy to you.
Sincerely,
Kathy DeKuiper
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Judy Tice
March 16, 2011 at 10:22 am
We are so very sorry and saddened for the loss of Ben and don’t really know what to say. He loved life, his parents, and dogs. We spent time fishing together at Swan Lake a couple of summers ago, he was sure he caught the most fish! We enjoyed having him over to visit at Mike’s house. He loved to tease and hang with the guys. He loved playing with Barney the beagle, and the other dogs. Ben had a lovely smile that would light up the room. Our sympathies and prayers to you. We will miss him.
Judy Tice and Mike Lash.
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ron and karla princing
March 16, 2011 at 12:36 pm
For your loss we grieve. Ben wanted to learn and do everything with wood sometimes all at once. The list of projects to do was long. Not all was woodworking in the Shop. We talked of many things in the shop and to and from the carving meetings. Some what he called life stuff. He even tried to keep me up to date with new bands,saying i need to keep a open mind. We were making plans to start a business doing Ero mounts and walking sticks. But with it all came the COMEDY quick with a joke or a poke.”Yea Yea I know carve down hill sand sand sand’. What that? It was a Jake moment”
Know that Ben loved you very much, family and friendship came first . He was well on his way to being a fine young Man
Their will be a empty spot in my shop
Ron and Karla
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Angela Kutsche
March 16, 2011 at 1:02 pm
I had know Ben ever since I was young. He was always so nice and such a sweetheart. He’ll be missed. The good die young but heaven got another angel.
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catrina roberts, cheryl holiday , vickie gouin
March 16, 2011 at 2:29 pm
Dear, Ben’s family we are so very sorry for your loss and we will pray for you guys everyday and ben was a great friend to cheryl , catrina and he was always the smiling type at school until somebody made him mad but we just hope that you guys can just understand that god has a plan for everybody’s life but don’t get us wrong ben didn’t deserve to die in that way or any other way either . but also ben is watching over all of us just thinking i hope they are not crying too much for me but he knows that we all miss him very much and that all us his friends love him as well as his family too you guys are great people thank you ben for being so nice to everybody
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Tabitha Day
March 16, 2011 at 9:35 pm
To Ben’s family, i am very sorry for your loss.. Ben was a Really good friend of mine, i started school this year at Plainwell, and since i met Ben. He became like my bestestest friend ever, he was my inspiration. We shared so many memorys togather in Mr. Balamante’s class. He always cheered me up when i was down, he knew what to say. He was a very sweet guy.. who cared about everyone, had so much respect for everyone. He pretty much had a awesome personality.. Ben You will never be forgot’ You will always remain my bestestest friend ever. RIP Ben.
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brenton elkins
March 17, 2011 at 12:30 pm
Ben you were a great friend will always remember the time we spent together and laughs we shared you were the kindest person i know you were a great friend with good potential will love and miss you
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zac
March 17, 2011 at 9:18 pm
he seems like a good kid’
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Doug&Cathy Coulson
March 17, 2011 at 10:25 pm
David and Annette, We are so sorry! Our thoughts and prayers are with you at the time of your loss
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Sharon (Spicer) Crawford
March 18, 2011 at 11:24 am
Annette, It has been many years since I seen you, but I offer my deepest reqrets at the loss of your son (Ben). I understand he was your only child, I feel that pain, I almost lost my only child Nicole in a car accident a few years ago. I hope that Jehovah’s strenth will carry you through this very hard time in your life.
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Katie Hilsbos
March 22, 2022 at 10:10 am
Katie Hilsbos
I am going to miss you Ben Selby
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